How a Cemetery Provides Closure, Peace of Mind and Reflection Just Like a Funeral Home

By: Les Fee
Thursday, June 9, 2016

When you are reeling initially from the loss of your loved one, you may find great comfort in some familiar traditions and ceremonies that are associated with death and dying. That is one of the reasons that the settings of the cemetery and the Funeral Home, which would seem to be areas to cause sadness, can actually bring comfort when you’re grieving.

Peace at the Cemetery

For many people, visiting your loved one after they’ve been buried at the cemetery provides comfort and peace that they don’t experience elsewhere.

You might think a cemetery would make you feel sadder because it is a very stark reminder of the reality of your loss. For some, this stark reminder is a necessary step toward closure. Yes, the sadness is pronounced, but accepting the truth can help move you closer to healing.

For many people, there is a certain connectedness that can only be experienced at the burial site. People often visit a gravesite and chat with the one they’ve lost, sharing news, events and the emotions of their grief. While the response from your loved one is silent, you’ll feel that they are there.

It’s not uncommon for people to say that they miss their loved one more when they aren’t at the cemetery, especially in the early days of grief. Often, cemeteries are quiet, peaceful and offer lots of green space and trees- which can provide a good backdrop for quiet reflection.

Comfort in Ritual

Many people specially visit a loved one’s gravesite on the anniversary of their death, birthdays and other special days. They also take great pains to tend to their gravesites, taking pride and pleasure in keeping the gravesite looking fresh with pretty flowers. Sticking to these kinds of rituals can be enormously comforting when you are dealing with loss.

Support at the Funeral Home

Similarly, the Funeral Home is the physical site for both great sadness, but also for enormous comfort for the bereaved.

You are surrounded with visible support- with friends and family offering their thoughts and prayers during visitations and services. You’ve got the sensitive care of our trained staff, ready to assist you however you need. We also can direct you to a number of grief support resources.

There is also a sense of comfort in being able to participate in the familiar routines of funeral and burial because these routines help formulate the celebration of your loved one’s life. For support with your loss, call Fee & Sons at 780-385-3642, serving Killam, AB.


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